Comments on: Pre-Midlife Crisis

By: Kimmy

Kimmy — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 21:18:39 +0000

Over time, I think you’ll find yourself being defined as your children’s bestfriend mom, a creative mom, a teaching mom, a sewing and crafts mom, a conversation partner to your children mom, etc. But most importantly, something you were before, are now, and will always be, your husband’s best friend

By: Ruth

Ruth — Fri, 30 Jan 2009 19:17:34 +0000

Yours is not an unusual question! I wondered that same thing many times over the years and did indeed feel “lost” as times in the hustle and bustle of child rearing. As your children grow and mature, you will do so right along side them. What you were in the past, are right now, and will be as they grow, will never be the same. Opportunities will come along for you to grow into your own person again. Right now who you are is defined by your children and their needs. Try to get that occasional trip to the store alone, or to the library or wherever so that you can regroup and just be “you” for awhile, and then you will feel happier to be home and be “mom” again. You are truly blessed to be able to be a stay-at-home mom and be the one to raise your children. There are lots of moms out here who will be happy to lend a sympathetic ear when you need to let out the stress! It will get easier and you will have your own identity when they are grown!

By: Charla

Charla — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 03:26:06 +0000

Lora, just take one day at a time. Don’t worry about when they get older. Just deal with the day’s own activities and find enjoyment in each day. You will adjust with each stage of their life…it happens without you realizing it sometimes. Take time to nurture and develop your own interests when they get a little bit older.